By Joy Britt Reavis
A clever lyricist/songwriter, Gregory Alan Isakov, recently wrote a song called “Second Chances” with this poignant phrase, “If it weren’t for second chances, we’d all be alone.” I chuckled when I read this, because it hit home! If it weren’t for the grace and forgiveness of people who care about us, we would probably be shackled by the chains of guilt and frustration following a disagreement or misunderstanding and live a much more sheltered life. And if we failed to give other people second chances, we would eventually become completely alienated as our growing lack of humility and self-pride caused fewer and fewer of our friends to want to be around us.
Some of you may be in a position right now in which someone needs to give you a second chance. Others may be in a position where you need to give someone a second chance. In either case, listening to music and remaining actively involved in prayer can be a powerful step toward resolution of either of these problems.
Many songwriters have written music on the topic of forgiveness, the root of second chances. Their lyrics may strike a chord as you read them.
Singer/songwriter Amy Lee with Evanescence wrote, “Forgive Me,” an apology that could serve as inspiration, if you need to ask someone for a second chance but are struggling to find the words or phrases to ask for their forgiveness.
“Forgive Me” by Evanescence
“Can you forgive me again?
I don’t know what I said
But I didn’t mean to hurt you
I heard the words come out
I felt that I would die
It hurt so much to hurt you
Then you look at me
You’re not shouting anymore
You’re silently broken
I’d give anything now to kill those words for you
Each time I say something I regret I cry, “I don’t want to lose you.”
But somehow I know that you will never leave me, yeah.
‘Cause you were made for me
Somehow I’ll make you see
How happy you make me
I can’t live this life
Without you by my side
I need you to survive
So stay with me
You look in my eyes and I’m screaming inside that I’m sorry.
And you forgive me again
You’re my one true friend
And I never meant to hurt you”
Do you need to offer forgiveness? It isn’t always easy to admit that we may be partly to blame whenever something goes wrong in a relationship. The key is to quickly work toward restoring peace, as this songwriter suggests.
“Forgiveness” was written by Leona Lewis
I don’t wanna spend another day pointing fingers while I’m placing blame.
I’m no angel, imperfect myself, ’Cause, baby, I am only human.
And I don’t wanna put it all on you. I admit I did some painful things it’s true. And I’m sorry for them, no making amends for always thinking I was innocent.
Starting today, I’m gonna change, don’t wanna make the same mistakes, ’cause I can see a new horizon. The ice around my heart is melting.
And the hurt I feel is slowly dying. Now I’m no longer crying. The bridge we burnt is being built again. It’s leading to a new beginning.
And it may never be the way it was, And that’s because I’m talking about forgiveness
Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness!
I wish we could take back the things we said, ’cause what we said’s not always what we meant. We lost our heads, in the moment. And the words we used them like a weapon.
But no one wins if we both walk away and we hid behind the people we became. We’re warmer than that, we’re better than that and I still cherish all the things we had.
Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness!
The Pastor of Life Care at The Summit Church, Ike Patterson recently spoke on the topic of forgiveness and second chances. “People hurt us. Forgiveness is hard, not natural. What is natural for us is defensiveness, to stuff down our feelings. It takes courage to admit there is pain that needs to be dealt with. Forgiveness is living in an active process of letting God fill up your wound with His grace. It is a daily process…to break a cycle of pain. Forgive as you have been forgiven.” (www.thesummitchurch.net, /Media/Recent Series/“Les Miserables”)
As part of the daily process of dealing with pain from our past, we can be thankful that we have a God who forgave us, who hears our prayers, and wants us to call on Him for strength when we need to forgive.
The lyrics to the next two songs, “Second Chances” by Hillsong United and by Rend Collective, convey this in a beautiful way.
“You called my name, reached out Your hand, restored my life
And I was redeemed the moment You entered my life.
So it’s with everything I am, I reach out for Your hand
The hope for change, the second chance I’ve gained.” (Hillsong)
“Countless second chances we’ve been given at the cross
Fragments of brokenness salvaged by the art of grace You craft life from our mistakes
Black skies of my regrets outshone by this kindness. New life dawns over my soul”
Rend Collective from their album Homemade Worship from Homemade People © 2012
May God’s abundant peace be with you as continue your journey, forgive others as you have been forgiven, and make it a point to act differently when someone gives you a second chance!
Joy is a classically trained pianist/composer who lives in Kernersville with her husband and son. She works as a pharmaceutical rep for Pfizer during the day, and plays the piano throughout the Triad in the evenings and weekends. She plays in the band at The Summit Church in Kernersville and Oak Ridge, and at the Walkertown Library on Mondays, 5-6pm. She just released her third album, “State of Joy,” a celebration of NC with ambient sounds from scenic and historic locations. Other albums include “Expressions of Joy” and “Tidings of Joy,” a Christmas album. Visit www.joybrittreavis.com for more details.